📖 Excerpted from God Jots: Forgiveness and Healing
That Moment When You Want To Be Holy… But You’re Also Petty
Let’s be honest: there are days where forgiveness doesn’t feel like a high and holy act. It feels like something you mutter through clenched teeth while imagining fire raining down from the sky. But that’s okay. This chapter is for those of us who are still somewhere between mercy and meltdown.
“We often confuse justice with vengeance that we often think we’re acting in pursuit of the former when in reality we are acting in pursuit of the latter. This is because we allow our hate and anger and bitterness to control us and direct us towards these vengeful pursuits.”
“We think our behavior is reasonable given the circumstances and thus we think it just. But the truth is that we can only objectively deliver justice if we forgive first.”
We’re not called to deny the pain or pretend we don’t want justice. We’re just invited to trust a version of justice that’s higher than ours.
Forgiveness Isn’t About Control—It’s About Trust
Sometimes the hardest part isn’t forgiving. It’s what happens after. You’re left wondering what comes next, whether it made any difference, and whether God really saw it all.
“From the moment we choose to forgive, we start a healing journey that impacts us on multiple levels: spiritually, emotionally, and even physically.”
You can’t spreadsheet your way through forgiveness. But you can release what’s not yours to carry and begin making space for something better: peace.
When You’re Still Waiting For The Apology That May Never Come
There’s a beautiful fantasy where the people who hurt us come back and say, “I see it now. I was wrong. You were right.” But that’s not how this usually works.
“Drop that backpack and you’ll find it’s much easier to open your arms to others. That’s because forgiveness lightens our load and opens the door to healing and freedom.”
You don’t have to wait for someone else’s repentance to start your recovery.
Justice Still Matters. But It’s Not Yours To Carry Alone
Choosing forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending nothing happened. It means acknowledging what happened while still choosing to grow beyond it.
“An invitation is a choice. This further aligns with the Christian notion of free will… As the person who has been wronged, you now, in a strange but beautiful way, have been given responsibility over this power, even if just temporarily.”
“How will you use it? Will you selfishly guard it and hold all that goodness, Joy and Love at bay, even from yourself? Or will you invite it into the world, knowing that it won’t just affect you and those around you, but the person or people who have wronged you as well?”
There’s real strength in releasing the grip we have on payback, and opening ourselves up to something more transformational.
Why This Book Matters For People Who Are Still In The Middle of It
If you’re still somewhere between anger and healing, or if forgiveness feels more like gritting your teeth than glowing with virtue, Forgiveness And Healing is for you.
“Don’t be afraid of yourself. Keep moving forward!”
This book isn’t here to shame you for not being “there” yet. It’s here to walk with you, one real and honest step at a time.
Forgiveness And Healing
Whether you’re seeking forgiveness, offering it, or simply trying to understand what it really means, this book meets you exactly where you are. And walks with you from there.
Drawing from biblical truths, real-life stories, and a little irreverent humor (because let’s be honest, healing is hard enough), this book offers practical steps and heartfelt insights for anyone trying to let go of past hurts.